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Hi
My ex husband has gone missing and has been for nearly two years now, and I am afraid that he may be dead.
He is a traveller and was apparantely going to Mexico in November 2004. He has not been heard of since.
He had also arranged to meet some friends in Thailand, last year, but did not show up.
This is totally not in his nature, to not get in touch with our Daughter, who is his only living relative. She is very worried, but is banging her head upon the proverbial brick wall, as no-one seems able to help.
She has approached the police, but was told that he needed to have an address that he has gone missing from...she doesn't have one!!
She has telephoned the pasport office, to try to find out if he actually did go to Mexico in the first place and they won't help.
She has contacted the foreign office and was told that if she didn't know where he was, they couldn't help!!
Obviously, she is now very concerned, as we all are, but do not know what to do next.
He had been living with a friend in Blackpool, when my Daughter last heard from him in October 2004, but we do not have any contact details for him at all.
All we know is his name (he was our best man at our wedding).
We have rang every listing in the Blackpool telephone book (thankfully there were only six) but no luck.
If any one has any ideas or suggestions at all, please let me know.
We are now at our wits end.
Many thanks
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Try the Salvation Army. They have a lot of success with finding missing persons. See this link:
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You could try the best man's name in Find People here or on
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How about putting a letter into the whichever paper is Blackpool's local one, or a nationwide paper, I know the Daily Record do a bit for lost contacts.
Good luck with your search.
Carol
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I wish you all the luck in the world - what an awful thing for you and your daughter to have to deal with.
I think the letter in the paper idea is a good idea.
I've seen appeals on milk bottles before now but no idea how you go about that. There must be organisations that can help.
Just had a thought - typed "missing person" into Google and it came up with
You could try the electrol rolls - for a time that you know your ex was living in Blackpool with his friend. He may appear on there - at least it would be a starting point. No idea where you would go from there.
Do you know your ex's NI number? If he is claiming benefits or working then there should be records - whether they will be divulged to you though, is another matter.
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Many thanks for all of your suggestions but have tried all of the above.
The salvation army will only try and trace family members in this country.
We don't know my ex's NI number and the best man (my ex's friend) has moved house after a divorce!!
We have contacted the Blackpool Gazette (local paper) and have not had a response.
The sites that were suggested have been tried also.
As I said previously...we are literally banging our heads against brick walls..as no-one seems able or willing to help.
Thankyou to you all anyway for caring enough to answer.
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Mmmm, the police demand an address before they got involved? Why? He's not there!!!
I would be tempted to go back to the Police and if fobbed off demand to see the Duty Inspector. This isn't a case of been missing a few days, it has been 2 years now; ergo definately a missing person!!!
Take all the info you can, photographs, documents anything and push this with them.
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have you tryed putting some sort of posting up on to see if you can locate the best man?
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have you tryed putting some sort of posting up on to see if you can locate the best man?
Hi
Thanks for that suggestion, but have tried this and he hasn't come up on search.
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Maybe if I give people the names then someone on here, from the area might know him!! Here's hoping anyway.
My ex Husband (the guy who is missing) is Stephen Holmes..aged 49
The best man (my ex's friend) is Gordon Dickinson...about the same age
Gordon used to be a self employed shop fitter, but I believe he is now a cab driver.
(Before you all ask me to check out the cab companies in Blackpool.....there are far too many of them!!)
Many thanks for any help you can give.
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The best man (my ex's friend) is Gordon Dickinson...about the same age
Gordon used to be a self employed shop fitter, but I believe he is now a cab driver.
(Before you all ask me to check out the cab companies in Blackpool.....there are far too many of them!!)
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If he is a registered taxi driver surely the local council should have a list of all permit holders, regardless of how many companies they have been scattered around. I know taxi drivers frequently move around a bit from company to company but they take their permit (and it's registered number) with them. Try the local taxi federation and see if they can help and, if they think the ex-wife is always sure to be trying to cause trouble, get your daughter to do it. Doubt if they would hand out his details but they may be willing to forward a note on your behalf if you explained.
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I have PM'd you.
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Not sure if it's been mentioned but is it possible to look into whether he has used credit cards/bank cards at all?
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Not sure if it's been mentioned but is it possible to look into whether he has used credit cards/bank cards at all?
The banks will not give that information out to anyone other than the police!!
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The banks will not give that information out to anyone other than the police!!
Trying to send you a PM but your mailbox is full.
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or myspace
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What about putting a classified ad' in the personal messages column in the local Blackpool paper asking his friend to contact you ?
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Try phoning the local Radio station, see if they can put a message out for you. No doubt that the taxi driver, will more than likely listen to the radio whilst at work, so might hear it.
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If still no luck with the police try contacting your MP. He may be able to give you some more advice and names of other organisations in your area. You never know he/she might even contact the chief constable.
My local mp helped me out when i had a problem where eveyone else seemed to be against me. (my problem was miniscule compared to yours)
Good luck, my thoughts are with you and your daughter.
Keep strong
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Thankyou all so much for your suggestions and thoughts.
It is very heartwarming to think that there are people out there who care enough to want to help.
We are going to contact my Daughters MP and she is also going to contact the radio station in Blackpool.
We hadn't thought of this idea, so putting up this post was really useful.
I have tried to do things on her behalf...but because I am the ex wife, people automatically think you are out to cause some sort of trouble.
I just want to put my Daughters mind at rest..or help to find out what has happened to him.
Any more useful suggestions will always prompt me to hit the thankyou button...as I really do appreciate all of your help.